Let’s just say that the result of the presidential election and tensions with my family have given me more than enough reasons to curl up into a ball, cry, and vanish. But…I have a life to lead.
Yes, my future with my family — and as an American citizen — grows ever more unclear. Just about anything could happen and, while that can seem distressing, it doesn’t have to be. It’s important to keep things in perspective. Donald Trump can only do some much damage as President. Separation of powers exists for a reason and, worst comes to worst, he’ll likely be impeached if he abuses the executive order system. Or the nuclear codes. As for the folks fleeing the country, we need to be more involved politically right now. Not less.
I don’t know that my parents will ever fully come to accept me but they won’t disown me and they still love me. They just happen to have a different point of view about relationships and a big factor in that is the generational gap between us. If everyone keeps their minds open, however, things will turn out fine.
I have complete faith in both of these ideas because they’re reasonable. It’s so easy to fall into fear and predict the doom of this country but that doesn’t serve anyone. What will serve the people is advocating for the groups that are going to be discriminated against in Trump’s policies. Don’t let him repeal same-sex marriage or abortion, don’t allow him to build the wall, get out there and lobby Congress.
As for my family, it’s going to be a game of “wait and see.” Frankly, I’m not even interested in a relationship at the moment because I have other priorities like a college education and this blog. Also, I’m nowhere near emotionally ready for one at the moment.
Bottom line: Maintaining perspective in times of hardship and uncertainty has always kept me grounded. It’s played a massive role in preventing me from relapsing into self-harm because I used to feel like every little mistake was a disaster. But how many mistakes are really going to affect you in the next five years? Also, I find that most challenges aren’t as difficult as they first may appear. You just have to have the courage to take that first step and, progressively, it just gets easier and easier.