I am not a mom, Heaven forbid, but I do understand how raising twins is no easy feat. FoxFairy Twins does it on a daily basis! Here’s her story…
Have you ever wondered what a day in the life of having twins is like? Would you like answers to questions such as: ‘How do you manage with twins?’ ‘What time do you feed them?’ ‘How often do twins sleep?’ ‘What activities do you do with two babies?’ Well lucky for you, in this post I shall be giving you all a wonderful insight into what life is like with twins.
As the twins are now 4 months old, things are starting to get a little bit more exciting for us. Now, I don’t mean to sound like the last 3 months haven’t been the most whimsical (N.B. They haven’t. I’m tired (understatement), I haven’t washed properly since I entered into my third trimester (have you SEEN how big I was??) and no amount of caffeine or Benefit can cover these bad boy eye bags. I am in a constant state of delirious deja vu: feed feed, nappy nappy, change change, sleep sleep…) Fabulous.
However now that the twins are a little bit older, they are able to stay awake for more than 20 minutes at a time. This means we can fill up our time with things other than the obvious (that’s if I have the energy…our babies are still feeding all through the night…zzz).
Entering into month 4 was exciting because I could see we were starting to get into a somewhat daily routine. Now, if you haven’t already detected from my last posts, I am a stickler for organisation. Give me a Paperchase planner and a bunch of post-it notes and I’m happier than a postpartum mumma devouring her first glass of chilled Prosecco (well, maybe not quite as excited as that, but you get the picture). I felt like I had some control over what we were doing in this existence of new born delirium. So, here is an overview of a typical day living with twins:
Our Daily Routine
- 5/6am: First feed of the day. This is delightful because even though I want to stick pins into my eyes as I’m SO TIRED from feeding throughout the night, I am always greeted with slobbery, gummy smiles. All the feels.
- Nappy change and then back to sleep (not always, if they wish to prolong my sleep deprivation)
- 9am: Feed, followed by tummy time. They hate this. Literally hate it. They used to just lie there like dead fish. Now their movements resemble something similar to a drunken seal… This drama is then followed with another nap. Twin tip! Always put your babies down to sleep together so that they get used to each other’s noises. That way, they are not disturbed if one becomes grizzly, the other will sleep through it
- 10.30am: Wake up and time to play with the play gym. It’s wonderful to watch them using this. I have really seen the difference from month 3 to month 4, where before they didn’t have the coordination to do anything with it, now they are able to understand cause and effect: I kick, the monkey wobbles, I smile.
- *At this point of the day I would start packing the baby changing bag, ready for our afternoon walk. This means boiling water for the formula feeds, decanting formula into pots, sterilising bottles, checking there are enough nappies etc. This helps to make the afternoon run a lot smoother.
- 12pm: Feed and then out for a walk for the afternoon. YOU NEED TO DO THIS otherwise you will go mad with cabin fever. Yes, this is definitely the hardest part of the day in terms of organisation. Having babies means you are constantly on a time limit, planning in when their next feed is going to be. This means as soon as they have finished their 12pm feed it’s go go GO out of the door as quick as we can as to cram as much in as possible before their next feed strikes.
- 3pm: (Another!) feed, more tummy time, before they gang up and torture me with the dreaded witching hour. Which, by the way, is a big fat LIE because some days we have witching afternoons. (Do not fret…I have another post about how to survive witching hour coming up in the future!)
- 6pm: This is the part of the day where I really do feel like a human conveyor belt. Once I have fed them, I bath one baby whilst the other one sits in the bathroom with us waiting for their turn. I quickly moisturise the first baby, pretend I know how to do baby massage (you just rub the cream in, right?), put them into bed…then it’s onto the next baby. Once both babies are in bed I read them a story, say good night and leave them to settle down to sleep.*Don’t be fooled. The twins settling themselves down to sleep at bedtime has been achieved through endless nights of repeating this routine until they learnt that it meant bed time. It doesn’t happen over night so don’t be disheartened if your little one isn’t quite there yet. Routine, routine routine!
- 10/11pm: Night feed in their cot (using curved cushions, see my earlier posts about feeding twins) and then straight back to sleep.
- 2/3am: The painful night feed (I CANNOT wait for the twins to drop this feed. I have been reading up on how to help babies sleep for longer. Not. Working. Yet. I still have faith that we will get there in the end (but for now, I live with a large black coffee permanently in my hand…)
- 5/6am: Aaaaand we do it all over again!
Of course this overview doesn’t take into account the surprise poo explosions or projectile vomit parties. But what it does give you is a little taster into how we fill up our time with our two bundles of joy. I will be interested to see how this differs in a couple more months time.
Check out FoxFairy Twins blog here
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